I have started describing about my personal space in my previous post.
Here are few more to go with it. Just the random thoughts, which comes across
my mind when I am on my ‘Empty Box’.
Empty Box is a term introduced by Mark Gungor, an American pastor.
According to him Men's brains are
very unique. we've got a box for everything. We've got a box for
the car. We've got a box for the money. We've got a box for the job.
We've got a box for you. We've got a box for the kids. We've got boxes
everywhere. And the rule is: the boxes don't touch. When a
man discusses a particular subject, we go to that particular
box, we pull that box out, we open the box, and we discuss only what
is in THAT BOX. And then we close the box and put it away being very, very
careful not to touch other boxes.
Now women's brains are very different from men's brains. Women's brains
are made up of a big ball of wire. And everything is connected to everything.
The money is connected to the car and the car is connected to your
job and your kids are connected to your mother everything is all
connected. It's like the Internet superhighway, and it's all driven by energy
that we call emotion. It's one of the reasons why women tend to remember...everything.
Women tend to care about everything. And she just loves it.
Now for men, we have a box in our brain that most women are not aware
of. This particular box has nothing in it. In fact, we call it the "Empty
Box." And of all the boxes a man has in his brain, the "Empty Box"
is our favourite box. If a man has a chance, he'll go to his Empty Box every
time. That's why a man can do something seemingly completely brain dead for
hours on end. You know, like fishing.
Now they've actually measured this. The University of
Pennsylvania a couple of years ago did a study and discovered that
men have the ability to think about absolutely nothing, and
still breathe.
Women can't do it. Their mind has never stopped. And they don't
understand the "Empty Box," and it drives them
crazy because nothing drives a woman crazier and makes them
feel more irritated than to watch a man doing nothing.
Coming back to personal space. Only a few will be invited to my personal
space. I think everyone should have this feeling to respect each other’s
personal space. For example, just because you are a husband you can’t go in to your
wife’s space to remove those people who were there for years. Just because you
are a father/Mother you can’t define your kid’s space. Just because you are a boyfriend
you can’t change the design of your partner’s space. It has got a process.
A process that will run through years to define your personal space. You
may see me as rude, joker, bad, good and ugly. This will vary as per your
position in the personal space. Can’t help on it. It is defined like that. I
might not seeing or talking to you for a long time, don’t worry you are safe in
my space. But, yeah I have my own reason. If you feel like I am talking to you with
an interest you are in my personal space or you are a complete stranger (the
process hasn’t started).The reason why I was thinking about it was simple,
someone outside was trying to advise me one few things without even thinking
where he/she in the space.
I am always trying to be happy with all those things around me. My friend Jens once said “Your current state is
always better than a worst state than this which can happen to you”. I don’t know
how you understand it. But I understood it in my way.That’s all for the day. Let
me go back to my ‘Empty Box’. Enjoy your life. Define your personal space and
respect others too. J
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